How To Win Your Lover Back

It is a very grand statement to suggest that you should read this, but I feel that what I have to share may give you some valuable food for thought. After all you are reading this because you want to get your ex back.

Right now you may not know what to do and feel completely lost. This is understandable, but the last thing we want to do – which I think you would agree with, is acting out of confusion.

We all know that when a relationship breaks down there is often the tendency to jump to all the wrong conclusions. I do not know you personally and so I do not know what you are going through or how the relationship began to fail. One thing is for sure, there are some common fundamentals that are similar in most cases when we start to lose the connection with the one we love.

The first fundamental begins with responsibility. The key to any healthy relationship is balance. Two people who care deeply about one another do not become dependent on the other but interdependent. They are there for one another and really respect one another. In terms of interdependence each individual takes responsibility for their actions. The first problem when relationship breaks down is that we start to not take responsibility for our actions.

If we make a mistake we apologize however it comes with a “but”, example “I am sorry but, you do not understand me”. The keyword here of course is “me”. This basically states that I more concerned with myself over you. So if you have done something wrong or your ex has stated there is a problem and done something, then you need to take responsibility. Remember it’s all about the law of cause and effect and you need to find out what it is that caused the problem, then take responsibility, face and deal with it.

But all that is only half the battle, of course. Good communication is the key getting your ex to a place where they feel comfortable taking you back. So be sure to listen to their side, too. Although you may not like what they have to say, you’ll learn more by not interrupting and not taking everything as personally.

Maturity leads to communication. Communication is about sharing, when your mouth is in gear you are learning nothing. Trust me what’s in your head is old news. So you need to listen. Once you do listen I suggest not reacting, in actual fact once your ex has gone through everything, even if it upsets you, just leave it there, and take time out before trying to figure out a solution.

Lastly, take this time to consider why, exactly, you want your ex back so badly. Is it really because this is a person you want to share your life with, or is it simply that you don’t remember how to be without them anymore? Even if you have just gotten out of a long relationship, chances are you haven’t been with that person your whole life. There was a time when you did alright without them. Take the time to consider whether this person is an integral, important part of your life now or if you can possibly build a new life without them in it.

It is a very grand statement to suggest that you should read this, but I feel that what I have to share may give you some valuable food for thought. After all you are reading this because you want to get your ex back.

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